Leftist commentary from a mouthy bitch
Right now I want to talk about televised Class Warfare and the lower classes as the jesters of the Left.
Now, I think we all know what a screaming, pinko, commie, bleeding heart liberal I am. Never a whinging Lefty, I’m a jumping up and down on your throat in combat boots Lefty. However, I also come from what could generously be called the lower middle class. Generously.
Toddlers and Tiaras has become a sort of shorthand for some liberals for all that is wrong with lower class Red-Staters. I mean, most of the families depicted are pretty damn Red-State. (You’ll note I’m not using the word “conservative,” there’s a reason for that.) This show is also a “guilty pleasure” for a lot of my liberal friends, because, let’s face it, it reinforces their feelings of comfortable superiority over “those people.” The reason I want to write about this is that it’s all about the use of media to keep the peons squabbling and at each other’s throats instead of paying attention to the robber barons behind the curtains. By televising shows like this and the show built around the Duggars, it serves to further divide the Left-leaning population from the Right-leaning population, when we have way more in common than most of us are comfortable admitting.
The main reason that I can’t be amused by Toddlers and Tiaras, is that while I agree that the majority of the families they show are train wrecks (or rather are edited to look as train wrecky as possible), all I see are mothers desperate for their little girls to do better than they did, reach further, go higher. Whether they consciously know it or not. Some of those women may well be living vicariously through those little girls, but part and parcel of that is wanting their little girls to succeed where they didn’t or couldn’t. To me there is nothing funny about people doing everything they possibly can to see their children reach a better life. If the methods are flawed as hell, that’s because they’re working with the tools they know.
A lot of women, particularly educated women, seem to think that it should be blatantly obvious to all women that Feminism is the way to go, be self-sufficient, take care of yourself, plan pregnancies or not have children at all. To women who have been raised to let men make all their decisions, or at least the major ones, the idea of thinking for themselves can be downright terrifying. If you’re raised with it drilled into your head at every turn that you are inferior, can never be as smart as a man, or even better yet that God Himself has decreed that you are lesser, it’s hard to shake that kind of programming. Even those of us raised by Feminist parents are subject to fairly high levels of that kind of bullshit on a daily basis from the culture at large. When you don’t have the counter balance of the most important people in your life telling that it isn’t so, when they spend their lives telling you that it’s all true and worse… It takes a lot to break that bullshit. So, no, I don’t condemn those women for doing the best they can with the tools they’ve got.
Education is a privilege, and a good education is an even bigger privilege. Public education in this country is far from even. Curricula and budgets vary wildly from school district to school district, let alone city to city, county to county or state to state. While children raised in more affluent neighborhoods and suburbs may get taught from up to date textbooks using all new computer equipment, people in poorer neighborhoods or rural areas may be learning from old textbooks, on substandard equipment, and being taught things in public school that quite frankly contradict everything that “Separation of Church and State” actually means.
If no one in your life ever tells you that you can be more than just someone’s wife, then you’re going to groom your daughters to angle for the “best” husband they can get. That’s survival.
Do I hate it? Oh, hell yeah. Does it make me sad as hell every time someone posts a clip off that stupid show? Yes. And it makes me feel even worse to know that otherwise caring and empathetic liberals are laughing at these people in a stunning lack of empathy.