Leftist commentary from a mouthy bitch
Seriously, if you view children as a “consequence” or a punishment for having sex, don’t have any: Sex or Children. Period. I’m serious. The world will be a better place without your fucked up DNA propagating further. I promise.
This is something I hear from both the Anti-Choice side, as well as from some ostensibly Pro-Choice people. That they might support a woman’s right to choose, but if their OWN DAUGHTER got knocked up, they’d make her “face the consequences of her actions” if she got pregnant “through her own carelessness.” Because you know, a teenager who wasn’t mature or responsible enough to obtain and use birth control is a GREAT candidate for motherhood.*
If you believe this, never have children. If you already have, declare yourself an unfit parent and find someone reasonable to raise them from here on out, because this is some of the most fucked up bullshit I have ever heard in my entire life. I’m serious. If you think it’s perfectly reasonable to force a teenager to have a baby because she decided to have sex, then the words “perfectly reasonable” are not a descriptor that can be applied to you.
Bullshit like this is why I am vehemently Pro-Choice. Because I believe that every child should be a wanted child. Period. Full stop. And I don’t believe that “Grandma wanted your mother to pay for her dirty whore ways,” is anything like a child being wanted. Birth control, accurate sex education and accessible abortion are what it takes to make sure that every child born is a wanted child.
Seriously, do you assholes not realize what pregnancy does to a woman’s body at any age? Look, go find a group of mothers in their 40’s to 50’s, and ask them about childbirth and pregnancy. I guarantee that the stories they tell will make an experienced Special Forces dude throw up in his hat. Get them talking about stretch marks, labor pains, preeclampsia, premature births, gestational diabetes, the permanent back and foot conditions that pregnancy can cause, varicose veins, gestational hypertension… Believe me, I could fill this website with the things that even a normal, healthy pregnancy does to change your body forever.
Children should not be “borne” out of a sense of punishment or obligation. Children should be planned for, eagerly anticipated, and loved. They should have, if nothing else, at least one parent who wanted them. Resented children often wind up abused children. As I have repeated ad nauseum on this site, the earlier a woman has her first child is a very good indicator that she will remain below the poverty line for the rest of her life. So why would you consign your own child to that fate?
And I always notice that the fathers of these children rarely get mentioned in these lovely little hypotheticals. They always talk about girls and women “understanding consequences” but do they ever mentioned the other half of the horizontal mambo? Rarely, if ever.
So, why are you so set on punishing your daughters? Think about this. Why do you want not only to punish your daughters, but your grandchildren? Why? Is it because you “love children so much” that the thought of them spending a lifetime in poverty gets you wet?
Do you hate your own children so much that you don’t understand why this attitude sucks?
Think it through, just a little. Please, for the sake of girls everywhere.
*I am not slamming all teen moms. I’ve known some who were awesome moms, but they’re sadly a minority. Let’s face it, most 20 somethings are not ready for all that parenthood entails. I know I sure as shit wasn’t ready in my teens or 20s.