If…
If you have ever said, in response to the abortion debate, “She could just give up the baby,” READ THIS NOW: http://shakespearessister.blogspot.com/2009/03/breaking-silence-on-living-pro-lifers.html#disqus_thread
This is the story of a birth mother. No she doesn’t speak for all birth mothers, but judging by the comments by other birth mothers in the comments, she speaks for an awful lot of them.
I long maintained that if I got pregnant, I would abort. I meant it. I never understood how anyone thought I, who sobbed uncontrollably when giving away kittens I’d bottle-raised, could possibly carry a life inside me for nine months and then just give it away. I was also smart enough to know that I am unsuited to parenthood. I can barely deal with disciplining my cats, kids…? No.
If you have ever believed that pro-life bullshit about how damaging abortion is to a woman, without ever thinking about how terrible adoption might be for the birth mother, READ IT NOW.
I’m just going to shut up now, I can’t really do it justice. Just, go read it.
X-posted at Sirriamnis.
Sometimes it seems like the only acceptable choice we have is when to become a mother, not if. This. This is why it took me over 6 months to get my hysterectomy and I had to see a PSYCHIATRIST to get it EVEN THOUGH I HAD CANCER.
yeah. I am full of hate for the “women only exist to make babies. their whole existence is justified by having babies. Without having babies, women are NOTHING” attitudes.
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I have to be brief – I really should be in bed.
I have spent considerable time thinking about whether or not I wanted to be a parent or if I would be a good parent. I am pro-choice but I have done what I can to not have to get to that choice and I know I have been very fortunate at times not to have had to make that choice (long story – marriage stuff). I even spent some time considering if I could be a surrogate mother for my middle older sister who can’t have kids (not that she asked but I considered offering when I saw how hard it was on my brother-in-law and his wife to want so much to have kids and not be able to for so long). I came to the conclusion that it would tear me apart to give the child away – no matter how unsuitable I believe myself to be. Hell – I have not had a pet for over 13 years now because I had to give the ones I had away when we got only 20 days notice to move. It hurt that much. How much more so if it was a child I carried?
Thanks for posting the link.
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