Leftist commentary from a mouthy bitch
There’s something that comes up in the literature about survivors of sexual assault that’s been bugging me for awhile: the idea that survivors of sexual assault gain weight to protect themselves from further assault.
First, I’d like to bring to your attention the fact that sexual assault is about power, not attraction. Fat people, old people, children and even infants are sexually assaulted. Now, I’m going to use women as the default for the rest of this conversation, because I am more conversant with what is said about female survivors than male regarding weight gain. If anyone who is more knowledgeable about what is said regarding male survivors and weight gain would like to chime in the comments, I can edit this to add your comments on the bottom.
Next, I’d like to talk to you about people assuming that thin is the default state of the human race, and women in particular, and that you must be doing something wrong in order to get fat. So, of course, if a sexual assault survivor is getting fat, it must be because she’s doing it to herself. This is in spite of the fact that nearly everyone knows that for many of us, unless you actively pursue thin-ness as a goal all the time, you will almost invariably gain weight.
After a sexual assault, depression is a common response. When you’re depressed, you don’t feel like doing anything, let alone doing something that has as it’s basis, for many people, the desire to look better to other people. I don’t think it’s that sexual assault survivors gain weight on purpose as a form of “protection,” I think it’s far more likely that they quit doing all of the things they did to keep fatness at bay, and the weight just comes on.
Regardless of the fact that about 95% of all people who lose substantial amounts of weight gain it back, often with friends, within five years, people still assume that the default state of all human bodies is thin. Another problem with this world view is the automatic assumption that being fat is the result of a weakness or a failing. In the case of sexual assault survivors this failing is fear. Fear of being seen as attractive enough to be assaulted again. Do I really have to point out how incredibly fucked up this is?
There are dozens of reason sexual assault survivors might gain weight: depression, the medications for depression, lack of exercise due to trauma induced agoraphobia (a fancy way of saying they’re afraid to leave their house). So, why do people immediately leap to “they’re doing it on purpose?”